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C r o i club meeting
THE NEXT meeting of the O u g h t e r a r d Croi Cardiac Club takes place in The Lake Hotel, Oughterard next Thursday at 8pm. The previously postponed CPR information evening has been rescheduled for Thursday October 30. On the night the Croi nurse, Irene Gibson, will be highlighting the importance of| recognising the signs and symptoms of a cardiac event. She will also give information on the basic first aid steps that should be taken in the event of a cardiac emergency. For more information about the evening or about the Croi Cardiac Clubs in general contact Irene directly on (091)544331.

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Interfering judges create rights on unsound foundations says Chief Justice in Galway
BY KERNAN A N D R E W S THE CHIEF justice Ronan Keane, has questioned the basis of the "unenumerated rights" in the Constitution, the body of law which has given rise to privacy and the right to sue the state. In a recent address to The Law Society of NUI, Galway, he argued that recent judgments directing the State to spend money interfered with the role of the legislature and government in the protection of these rights. In what is seen by some as a thinly veiled reference to a series of judgements by Mr Justice Kelly directing the State to provide facilities for delinquent youths, he stated: "It is quite another matter for the court to assume the roles specifically assigned under the Constitution to the legislature and the executive".The Chief Justice lent support to the view that the "framers of the Constitution intended that the enforcement of what have come to be called 'socio-economic rights' is the function of parliament and not of the courts." He also said he is uneasy with "the somewhat dubious premises on which the doctrine of unenumerated rights rests and the dangers for democracy of unrestrained judicial activism in this area". Commenting afterwards Donncha O'Connell, lecturer in law at the university said: "There is a fine line between being neutral and biased in favour of the status quo. While no one would argue for judicial usurpation of the legislative and executive functions it is disappointing when the judiciary view the separation of powers' doctrine as an end in itself as distinct from a means towards realising the end of the 'rule of law'. "In a democracy the judiciary have a legitimate role to play in areas of social and economic concern. The noninterventionist position of the current Supreme Court inevitably leads to excessive deference to the executive. If the judges feel it is undemocratic for the judiciary to behave in a more activist manner then they should come up with proposals for 'democratising' the judiciary." The next speaker at the Law Society will be Mr Justice Paul Carney, Senior Judge of the Central Criminal Court. In what is sure to be a controversial speech, he will look at the current laws regarding the prosecution of murder and unlawful killing in general. His frequent criticisms of the Government's failure to appoint sufficient judges led him to suggest this year that murder and rape trials be dealt with by local circuit courts instead of the Central Criminal Court, a subset of the High Court. Judge Carney may expand on these remarks at the Law Society.

I clam u p during rows

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. I think I am probably different from most women (and my husband is probably different too) in that I am not good at discussing things with my husband when we have a row. He has always been the one to confront and I am the one who goes silent. I don't know why this is but it may have something to do with my childhood as my parents were always rowing and I hated it. My husband is a good man and we get on fine except for the times we have these rows. They are never about specific things like the children or sex or money but sometimes I get very unhappy about the marriage in the sense of how we are with each other. I would love us to be closer and I often feel he takes me and what we have for granted. I withdraw then and my husband keeps at me about what's wrong. When I go silent he gets annoyed with me and starts criticising me. The problem that started the row gets lost then and we carry on until the next time. I never feel that we resolve anything and I would love to be able to, or at least that we could deal with the problems in a better way. . You are right about one thing - your husband is different from the many men who shy away from confrontation. That is not to say your situation is unique it's just that the roles are reversed in this instance. You get annoyed about the way you feel he treats you. Instead of saying it outright you withdraw, say nothing. Your husband then confronts you, wants to know what's wrong and because you are unable/unwilling to respond, the argument becomes focused on your failure to communicate instead of the original reason fox your distress. Each time the row fails to address the problem because the focus changes to how you react to issues that are bothering you. If you don't say aetright what the problem is, it is very hard for the other person to get it right. Being silent takes away the opportunity for them to put things right. We complain when men don't respond effectively to us while at the same time leaving them to guess what's going on for us. That also leaves them powerless and that is not a nice feeling for anyone. By the time they realise they're in trouble about something they are also annoyed and feel wrong-footed. Your husband's criticism of you is his response to your withdrawal from him for something he wasn't even aware he was doing wrong. It's not really that important to know why you do this. What is important is to look at how you can change how you behave in the situation. Next time you feel aggrieved about how your husband is treating you, tell him. Stop being silent Say i t Your husband also has to stop criticising you so that you don't lose the courage to express how you feel and he needs to say sorry if an apology is required. It sounds to me like you are both anxious to make it right between you. A lot of practice and a bit of compromise should see to that.

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. A friend (male) has been having an affair for the last three years and he confides in me about it. I don't know his wife all that well but I have met the woman he is now involved with. I don't understand why be is unfaithful to his wife. I know they never have a row or disagreement whereas with this other person there are constant arguments. I don't mind listening to him though I don't ever feel I can advise him as I haven't a clue what to say but I think I might be more use to him if I could understand what he is doing in an relationship that is so turbulent. . None of us knows or can hope to understand what some people see in the people they are involved with, or what they are getting out of a particular relationship. It's interesting that you assume that because there are no rows and arguments in one relationship, it makes it a better bet than a relationship where there are. This is not necessarily so. Rows can be destructive and damaging of course but they can also clear the air and can help to keep a relationship alive. When couples argue they are at least making contact, and the relationship matters enough to them to try to sort things out. Your friend is obviously trying to work out things within this relationship and leaving aside the morality or otherwise of his infidelity, he will ultimately have to decide what he wants and if he can have what he wants within his marriage. In the meantime he's lucky to have a friend like you.

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